Emotional Health

We tend to think a lot about our physical health, our beauty (outward appearance), but not much on the emotional health side. For a woman the emotional health is just as important as the physical health. As a man thinks so is he or she. Even though men are not wired to think with their emotions, their emotions catch up with them, when they do not release those inward emotions that women release through tears, they end up with a heart attack many times because the heart has taken that stress that they are unwilling to let go of through tears.
Stress is an area of “no peace” in our mind or soul (mind, will, and emotions). No peace means dis-ease and what does that mean. DISEASE (that’s right a disease in our body). Heart problems, stomach problems, not digesting food properly brings big problems. So we must think about our emotional health as much as we think about the physical. Since the emotional causes a lot of the physical.
Can you remember when in school kids you to say sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. WOW, that is so far from the truth it is awful.
Truth is hurtful words, if not dealt with, will linger in your heart and the back of your mind for years and cause such things as ulcers and heart problems.
The main thing we need to deal with when we have been hurt emotionally or physically is forgiveness. I understand when we don’t even want to think about forgiving someone that has hurt us so badly. But, the truth of the matter is God’s word says if we don’t forgive we can’t be forgiven. Unforgiveness festers in our bodies as sickness (depending how long we hold on to the anger). Forgiveness and releasing that person to God and allowing God to deal with them, releases you from the anger, not saying those feelings won’t try to rare the ugly head and make you think it is your thoughts, but when you forgive and give it to God, it is the enemy that brings that thing back up in your mind. You must know how to fight your enemy he doesn’t fight fair!! I talk about all of this in my book teaching you how to recognize the enemy and how to defeat him.
Anger, resentment, and bitterness is the worst symptom of emotional distress. Please pray if you have a wound that you cannot get past or if you don’t pray or don’t know how you can email me and I will help you. [email protected]
As soon as you pray and forgive all that stuff that has been tormenting you has to leave. When we pray it’s under the blood. You may not be able to forgive someone with the emotions that you forgive them, it’s all by faith. Pray and ask our heavenly Father to help you forgive, get honest with God like I did over my mother that abused me, The Father asked me to forgive her and I said how can I when I hate her!! When we can admit our emotions (feelings) that’s when we can be healed.

It’s Definitely Summer!

Ladies, summer is here and we want to keep looking good! We need a make-up with an spf of 20 if possible. I would advise using sunscreen moisturizer if possible. One of the ways I take care of my sunscreen issue is through a nutritional product by Dr. Mercola. I believe in all natural. His sight is a really good site to learn about vitamins and health through the natural way. He has a product that is called Astaxanthin. This product not only helps with the wrinkle issues but it also is a sunscreen you can take internally and not worry about applying sunscreen to your face. It is also a high powered antioxidant, which helps with inflammation in the body.

Co-dependency/Enabler

All of us from wounded backgrounds, abuse and such do not know how to have healthy relationships. They are usually co-dependent/enabler!!! My guess most of us have those kind of relationships. We must pray and ask the Lord to help us to have a more balanced marriage or whatever relationship it is!
Marriage will not survive with this, and it’s because God won’t allow it! both those are idolatry!!! For which God will not put up with! It is putting that person on the throne’s of our hearts and God is supposed to be the only one with that place! God help us all that have had such relationships, help the mates to understand you will not allow it!!! IN Jesus name!
Don’t get me wrong his mercy is new every morning! We just need to repent and get right back where we were with him. And ask HIM for HIS strength to overcome this idolatry! We can do nothing without HIM and HIS help!
God wants us healed and healthy! I know he also wants us to give each other mercy and grace, however we must ask the Lord how to deal with the codependency in our own lives so that our marriages can be better but also so we don’t keep passing it down to the next generation.
Codependency is tough to deal with many times when it is both partners that are codependent. One is in one area and the other in another area. Some times we have to get away to see our own issues in the situation. When we are in the big middle of the situation we can’t see the forest for the trees. Can’t see our stuff for continuing to look at what’s wrong with the other one! It’s not easy to deal with our own stuff, but we must in order to have a healthy relationship!

New/recent make-up news and techniques!

I want to try to keep you up to date with newest make-up tehchniques and the newest formulas of make-up. If some of my posts are over a year old that doesn’t mean they are not still good. But, I have make-overs at least 5 or 6 times a year in order to keep we that are older up to date with the latest techniques to keep looking as young as we can even in our more mature years.
I also have an ulterior motive as well. I want to be able to attract younger women as well and I have to keep up with the newest techniques and make-up as well as the applying techniques.
As I learn new things I will keep you posted!!

Having Authority Means being under Authority

Just want to bring some truth in the midst of “Walking Away from Abuse”. Many men as well as women read a scripture and run with it. Like the scripture in Eph.5 about Women are to submit to their husbands and the man will take that to the bank not reading the scriptures above or below. The ones above say we are to submit to EACH OTHER!!!!!! It also says a man is to love his wife as Christ loves the church and gave himself up for her. Also loving her as his own body.
Another aspect of this also is if we are not under authority; we have no authority!! When we do not give ourself to authority we are out of order making the marriage out of order as well!!!
Especially when we are not submitting to the word of God. Faith without works is dead. We are to be a doer of the word not a hearer only!!!!!!!
Lord give us what we need to be doer’s of Your word not hearers only, in Jesus name!!!

The Effects of Soul-ties

When we have experienced trauma in our lives, that emotional pain allows the enemy to enter us (as unbelievers we can be possessed by demons, as Christians we cannot be possessed but we can be oppressed or tormented because of deception).  When we have lived our lives in abuse, we grow up thinking that is a way of life that is normal.  It becomes a mindset to us and along with the mindset is familiar spirits that come with the package. (by familiar spirits; what I mean is a spirit that attracts people to us that will do to us what is familiar to us), if we have lived in abuse, that spirit will attract abusers to us.  If we were raped as a child, that spirit will attract men to us that will abuse us sexually.  When we have been sexually abused whether as a child or in our older years (any time there is sex outside of marriage, it brings with it an unhealthy soul tie). Definition: Soul tie- a bond between two people that keeps drawing them back together. That’s why when two people have a sexual relationship before marriage, they wonder why they cannot seem to keep away from each other or they are drawn back together even though they don’t want to be together.  It is because of that unhealthy soul-tie.  There are soul – ties that are healthy, marriage being one of them and children with their parents until they are of age, but even in a parental relationship after we are grown the umbilical cord has to be cut, we have to become our own person and be on our own to have our own relationships and experience life for ourselves.  Many parents cannot let go of their children and form an unhealthy soul-tie with them, which at some point has to be broken if we are ever to live a healthy life style.

The unhealthy soul-tie causes us to be bound to these people in an unhealthy way.  When a father or stepfather has had sexual relations with the daughter it causes her to be codependent on him as if he were her husband because when he has sexually been with her it is the same as her being a wife. Which causes her to depend on him as a husband and she doesn’t even realize what is happening.  The same kind of soul-tie happens when two people come together sexually without being married.  When this happens men wonder why the woman seems to be insecure and demanding on him and it is because they have created a family type tie between the two of themselves not knowing it would cause the woman to fall into the roll of the wife and depending on the man as the husband roll when he doesn’t want the responsibility.  But, those are the consequences that come with the sex without marriage.  God created it to be a beautiful thing between two people (male and female AFTER marriage) and when it is done in His order there is harmony and unity and beauty in the relationship.

Asthaxathin – the Super Antioxident!

Astaxanthin is an all in one nutrient that is almost a miracle nutrient. It is an antioxident, it helps with premature aging, it’s 800 times stronger than CQ10 and Vitamin C and 550 times stronger than Vitamin E. The website below is the site to read and listen to how wonderful this nutrient is and what they have discovered that it is able to do for the human body.

www.products.mercola.com/astaxanthin

 

 

 

Co-Dominion

Do you know that in the beginning, when God created the earth and man. When he said to man “it’s not good that man should be alone” I will make him a helpmate for him”. When He created the woman out of the rib of man. He also said, therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall be one flesh.

Before He actually created man; He said to the Son and Holy Spirit; let us make man in our image, after our likeness; and let THEM have dominion over the firsh of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth and over every creaping thing that creaps upon the earth.

Before God ever brought Eve into existence , He gave THEM dominion over the works of His hands. What God intended not only in the beginning, but also now. Is for man and woman to be in such harmony and unity (one flesh) that they actually have the same power and authority. But, when Eve listened to the serpent and took of the apple from THE TREE OF THE KNOWLEDGE OF GOOD AND EVIL. That changed everything. It put us under the authority of our husband! No longer did we share that same power and authority.

But, in saying all of that I want to explain to you what God did! Because Eve was actually deceived, Adam was not deceived.  God told Adam before He brought Eve into the equation. Gen.2:16-17 And the Lord God, commanded the man, saying, of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat; but  of the tree of Knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it; for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die. (the death God was referring to was spiritual death). Not being able to commune with God.

So Adam was not deceived, he had been told by the Lord not to eat of the tree and told what the consequences would be if he did. So because he already knew and chose to do it anyway. God has held him accountable to Himself. As we women walk in submission to our men God can cause good to come out of some of the worst situations. As long as we submit (not that we submit to something that is ungodly) but every day things.  God can and will cause good to come to His precious daughters.  As long as we walk in submission the best we know how (that doesn’t mean being a door mat). God will hold His man accountable on how he obeys God and how he treats you his daughter.

But, those of us that have been born again by the blood of Jesus claim freedom of that deception. We have the Holy Spirit and are no longer deceived, the veil on our eyes has been removed.   But, we don’t take that freedom too far in thinking we are never decieved. We must all submit one to another as the word says in Ephesians 5. (IICorth. 3:16-19 – Nevertheless when one turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away. Now the Lord is the Spirit; and where the Spirit of  the Lord is there is liberty. But we all with unveiled face, beholding as in the mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord) But we must keep our eyes on the Lord or we can be deceived.

God’s perfect way is for marriages to truly represent Jesus and His church (bride). Walking in love and unity with each other and Him our Lord. In that place we again have been given back the co-dominion. We are able to walk in the power and authority God first gave to His c reation (man and woman).